There are strong indications that the
police will re-arraign suspects who were earlier arrested and detained
in connection with the murder of a former Attorney General of the
Federation and Minister of Justice, Chief Bola Ige.
It was learnt on Tuesday that all the
suspects that were arrested in 2002 who were later freed would be
apprehended again for fresh arraignment and prosecution in respect of
the case.
Findings indicate that a Special
Investigation Panel set up by the IG will look at all the evidence in
the case including forensic analysis which will be used to prosecute the
suspects afresh.
The police could not be reached for
comment as calls to the police spokesman, Donald Awunah, indicated that
his number was unavailable.
It was learnt that the initiative to
re-open Bola Ige’s murder case was from the acting Inspector-General of
Police, Ibrahim Idris.
Sources said the IG wanted to
demonstrate that the police could resolve all previously abandoned
politically-motivated murder cases in the country.
A national newspaper, (not The PUNCH)
had reported that President Muhammadu Buhari directed the IG to reopen
investigation into the unresolved murder of Ige, and ex-Deputy National
Chairman, South-South of the Peoples Democratic Party, Chief Aminasoari
Dikibo, and fish out the perpetrators for prosecution.
Ige was killed in his Bodija, Ibadan residence, on December 23, 2001, after he arrived Ibadan from Lagos.
A top Presidency source, who spoke to
one of our correspondents on Tuesday on the condition of anonymity, said
the reopening of the cases was an initiative of the present police
management.
The source added that naturally the President would not oppose such a decision that was aimed at ensuring justice.
He said, “The truth is that President Buhari did not order the reopening of the murder cases.
“The decision was solely taken by the new police management led by the Acting IGP.
“The belief of the police management is
that investigations into the cases were carried out shoddily, hence the
need to revisit them.
“Naturally, the President will not go against such a decision but he was not the one that ordered the reopening of the cases.”
Some hoodlums on Friday robbed and killed a 35-year-old ‘suya’ seller, Habibu Maude, after robbing the deceased.
The late Maude, a father of four, was shot dead at his suya spot along White House Street in Calabar, Cross River State.
Shops and other businesses in Bogobiri,
an Hausa settlement in Calabar, were closed on Saturday and Sunday as a
result of the incident.
It was gathered that the deceased, an
indigene of Tangaza Local Government Area of Sokoto State, did not argue
with the hoodlums before he was shot.
When contacted, the state Police Public
Relations Officer, Irene Ugbo, confirmed the incident, saying
investigation was ongoing to unravel the killers.
“Yes, we got the investigation that a
suya seller was shot by an unknown gunman along White House streets. We
have not made any arrest yet, but I can assure that we would track the
killers,” she said.
A law firm representing the embattled
Chief of Army Staff, Lt. Gen. Tukur Buratai, on Tuesday, said the Code
of Conduct Bureau had cleared the Army chief of any wrongdoing in the
$1.5m properties he (COAS) bought in Dubai, the United Arab Emirates.
In a statement, Buratai’s lawyer,
Ugochukwu Osuagwu, advised critics to respect the Army chief’s rights to
private family life as guaranteed in Section 34 of the 1999
Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria (as amended).
Also, documents obtained from the CCB
indicated that in his asset declaration Form CCB – 1 submitted on August
21, 2015, Buratai declared that the properties in Dubai belong to his
wife.
Osuagwu said the military chief didn’t
make any false declaration, adding that the said property was not
acquired after he became the chief of army staff to warrant the
invocation of Section 15 (3) of the CCB Act.
He said, “We view the further attempt by
some select few to still dwell on this same Dubai properties and
criticise the COAS as a veiled attempt to divert his attention from the
current war he is waging to secure the country in various troubled spots
in Nigeria.
“Critics are therefore advised to
respect the General’s right to private family life as guaranteed under
Section 34 of the 1999 Constitution of Nigeria (As Amended) and
construct their views within the ambit of the rule of law having been
duly cleared by the CCB.
“The COAS complied with Section 15(1) of
the Act and included his spouse’s assets in his declarations. That is
what the law requires of him and he did not disappoint. The COAS acted
lawfully and has not breached any law.”
According to Osuagwu, by a letter dated
June 29, 2016, the law firm requested the CCB to clear the air over the
said UAE properties.
Osuagwu added, “Without much delay, the
CCB responded in its letter dated July 11, 2016, and stated clearly from
the asset declaration filed by General Buratai that the said property
was duly filed by the Army General and in the spouse’s name.
“Having so declared the property as
required of him by law, the Chief of Army Staff has discharged the duty
placed on him by the 5th Schedule of the Constitution of the Federal
Republic of Nigeria and the CCB and Tribunal Act.”
A copy of the CCB’s response to
Buratai’s lawyer, forming the basis of Osuagwu’s assertion, was signed
by Mrs. Ijeanuli Arinze Ofor, on behalf of the CCB’s chairman, Mr. Sam
Saba.
The letter, titled, ‘Re-Request for
information pursuant to Section 1 and 4 Freedom of Information Act
2011’, read, “We refer to your mail dated June 29, 2016, on the above
subject matter. We wish to state here that General Tukur Yusuf Buratai,
after his appointment as Chief of Army Staff, declared his assets as
required by the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.
“He was served the Form CCB – 1 on July
21, 2015 and returned same on August 21 2015. We also wish to confirm
that his property in Dubai was declared in the wife’s name. Please
accept the warmest regards of the chairman.”
The Kastina State Police Command is
holding a family of five in its custody for allegedly feeding a day-old
baby boy to a dog as meal.
The incident happened at Saika village in Batsari Local Government Area.
The suspects include 15-year-old Wosila Halilu, her three stepbrothers and her mother.
It was alleged that Wosila, who is the
mother of the baby, got pregnant after she was raped by a 27 year-old
farmer, Musa Garba. She alleged that the farmer lured her into his farm
where he committed the act.
Police sources said the family viewed the pregnancy and subsequent delivery of the baby as shameful, since she was not married.
They, therefore, held a meeting where it
was alleged that Wosila’s mother and her step brothers decided that the
baby should be fed to a dog.
The village head of Saika, known as
Dakacin Seika, reported the incident to the police, leading to the
arrest of the family and the the farmer.
Garba is in police custody for alleged rape.
The culprits were brought before a
Kastina Magistrate Court on three count of culpable homicide, criminal
conspiracy and rape. The prosecution said the offences were in
contravention of sections 235, 387 and 85 of the Penal code.
Magistrate Nura Ladan ordered further
investigation into the incident. He directed that the suspects be
remanded in police custody until the case comes up for further hearing
on August 8, 2016.
An Ogudu Magistrates’ Court has remanded
a 48-year-old nurse in Kirikiri Prisons for allegedly failing to pay a
commercial bus owned by the Lagos State Government the correct fare.
The nurse, Oduwole Taiwo, who lives at
Lucky Fiber Road, Ikorodu, was said to have boarded the bus from Ikorodu
to Ojota at about 4.15 p.m. A journey which costs N100 instead of the
N50 she offered to pay.
The prosecutor, Sgt. Ihiehie Lucky, told the court that the accused committed the offence on July 10 at Ketu Bus Stop.
He said there was an argument between the accused and a LAGBUS ticketer over fare.
He said, “As the ticketer was collecting
money from other passengers, she got to the accused and she brought out
N50 to pay instead of N100.
“The conductor became angry and
threatened that she would not be allowed her to disembark at her bus
stop until she pays her bus fare.
“The driver tried to settle the matter and to his dismay, the accused left the ticketer and held the driver’s trouser on motion.
“The accused also unlawfully held the
steering of the bus, causing the driver, Ogbogbo Gabriel, to lose
control and in the process, the bus hit a BRT bus.”
The offences contravened Sections 166(1), (d) and 171 of The Criminal Law of Lagos State, 2011.
Section 166(1) provides a fine of N15,
000 or three months imprisonment or both for disorderly behaviour, while
Section 171 stipulates three years for assault occasioning harm.
Taiwo pleaded not guilty to the two charges of disorderly conduct and assault occasioning harm.
The Magistrate, Mrs O. Sule-Amzat, granted the accused bail in the sum of N20, 000 with one surety in like sum.
A German woman was on Wednesday sentenced to 14 years in jail for
manslaughter of four of her new-born children, months after the remains
of eight babies were discovered in her home.
The father of the 45-year-old woman’s children was released without
charges as a result of insufficient evidence, the court in the southern
German city of Coburg said.
“She certainly had acted egotistically and selfishly, but there was
also a motive, which was to preserve the family,” the court judge
Christoph Gillot said in handing down his decision.
The couple’s names were not released due to Germany’s strict privacy laws.
Wednesday’s sentencing came eight months after the bodies of eight
children were found wrapped in towels and plastic bags in the Bavarian
town of Wallenfels.
State prosecutors said it had not been possible to determine whether
the other four children had been alive at the time of their birth.
The defence lawyers said they were considering whether to appeal the sentencing.
A new date for the funeral rites of the late former Super Eagles Coach, Stephen Keshi, has been fixed for July 29, 2016.
The burial will hold at his country-home of Illah town in Delta State.
The Delta State Commissioner for
Information, Mr Patrick Ukah, revealed that the ceremonies will hold
between July 28 and July 31, 2016.
Burial activities for the former Super
Eagles supremo include a requiem mass at St. Paul’s Catholic Church, 30
Airport Road, Benin City, a novelty match by All Stars and Tributes, and
a service of songs/vigil mass at St John the Evangelist Catholic
Church, Illah, Delta State.
The burial ceremonies will be concluded
on Sunday, July 31, 2016, with a thanksgiving mass at St. John the
Evangelist Catholic Church, Illah, by 10:00am.
Before his death, Keshi coached the national teams of Togo and Mali, qualifying the former to the 2006 FIFA World Cup.
In his last job with Nigeria, he won the
2013 Africa Cup of Nations and reached the Round of 16 at the 2014 FIFA
World Cup in Brazil.
Keshi is survived by four children and his mother.
Members of the Lagos State House of
Assembly on Wednesday besieged the National Secretariat of the All
Progressives Congress, to protest against Senator Dino Melaye. The group of peaceful protesters, who
were led by the Deputy Speaker of the State House of Assembly, Mr. Wasiu
Sani, said they were at the party headquarters to register their
displeasure over Dino’s alleged verbal assault on Senator Oluremi
Tinubu. According to the protesters, Senator
Tinubu is a woman who respects all the political sons and daughters of
her husband but does not suffer fools gladly. They also alleged that there appeared
to be a conspiracy of silence by the leadership of the Senate over the
incident noting that as loyal party members, they could not fold their
hands and watch the party’s cherished values of loyalty and respect for
leaders being denigrated. Sani who later addressed newsmen after
the closed door meeting with the party’s National Chairman, Chief John
Odigie-Oyegun said, “We are here to pay solidarity visit to Senator
Oluremi Tinubu, that we condemn the act, she should not be intimidated
and she should not yield to verbal assault.” “But let me say this, Senator Oluremi
Tinubu, that we know who incidentally was the First Lady of Lagos state
between 1999 to 2007 some of us are like sons or brothers to her
husband, Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu. “In Yoruba land, if you are a son to a
woman’s husband, you are supposed to be her son. She respects us and
always addresses us as sirs. So, she is a woman that is cautious but she
does not take nonsense.”
Minister of Agriculture and Rural Development, Chief Audu Ogbeh
The Federal Government on Wednesday admitted that it is aware of “serious shortage of foods” in many families in the country.
The Minister of Agriculture and Natural Resources, Chief Audu Ogbeh,
disclosed this while briefing State House correspondents at the end of a
meeting of the Federal Executive Council presided over by President
Muhammadu Buhari at the Presidential Villa, Abuja.
Ogbeh was joined at the briefing by the Minister of Women Affairs,
Aisha Alhassan and the Special Adviser to the President on Media and
Publicity, Mr. Femi Adesina.
The minister said it was heartwarming that despite the food shortage,
the situation in the country was still not close to that of Venezuela
that can no longer feed its people.
He said the present administration was working hard to address the food shortage.
He gave an assurance that in the next one-and-half years, Nigeria
would be self-sufficient in grains like rice, beans and others.
To this end, he said the council approved the Agriculture Promotion Policy 2016-2020 tagged The Green Alternative.
He said the 129-page detailed document outlines the government’s
policies and objectives to see agriculture as the best alternative in
the administration’s quest to diversify the economy.
He said, “We are fully aware that there is a major concern in the
country for food self-sufficiency in the country and that there is
crisis in many families as a result of serious shortage of food.
“But we are working hard and thank God that ours has not become as
bad as one South American country, which was also a major oil producing
country. By that I mean Venezuela which situation is definitely a 100
times worst than ours.
“But the point is that where we believe that in a short while, maybe
in another one year and half in the maximum, we should be reasonably
self-sufficient in grains like rice, maize and beans.
“We may not achieve everything in wheat but we will be very close to
our targets. Other things are also there in the roadmap. And that is
what council endorsed this afternoon.”
Pandemonium broke out at the Lagooz
Schools on Omotoye Estate in the Orile Agege area of Lagos State after
some hoodlums invaded the school premises.
PUNCH Metro learnt that some Hausa teenagers, numbering about 100, stormed the school with machetes and other weapons.
They were said to have attacked the
school’s principal and a teacher, identified as Uncle John, during a
free-for-all which lasted for about two hours.
Our correspondent was told that the
rampaging youths, aside damaging some property of the school, allegedly
made away with N1.5m.
Policemen from the Elere divison,
operatives of the Special Anti-robbery Squad and some members of the
Oodua People’s Congress, were said to have repelled the attack as
residents fled the area.
Our correspondent was told that seven of
the hoodlums were arrested, while others escaped after SARS operatives
opened fire on them.
A resident, who spoke on condition of
anonymity, said trouble started when the school finished its valedictory
service party on Saturday, but the teenagers refused to leave the
school premises.
He said, “They were actually relatives
of some of the school-leavers. The valedictory service party ended
around 5pm, but they refused to leave. A teacher, Uncle John, tried to
force them out. One of them abused the teacher and ran away.
“The teacher, who was embarrassed by the
abuse, held one of the Hausa teenagers. There was a struggle between
them. As the teacher hit the man, he also fought back and held the
teacher by the neck, almost strangulating him.
“The principal, who wanted to settle the
fight, was held by the tie by one of the intruders and beaten up. The
principal’s brother, who wanted to rescue him, was given a fist blow in
the eye.”
Our correspondent was told that the
teenagers damaged about four dozen of the chairs used for the party.
Three of them were later apprehended by the school.
Those apprehended were reportedly held hostage in a classroom, while the others wreaked havoc on the school premises.
A source told PUNCH Metro that the apprehended teenagers, however, mobilised more gang members into the community on the telephone.
He said, “Those boys had their phones
and they started calling their friends, who trooped into the school with
cutlasses and weapons.
“Policemen at the school’s gate
prevented them from gaining entrance as they shot into the air. The
hoodlums, however, grew in number, which overwhelmed the security
agents.
“Despite the gunshots, the teenagers
refused to go. In fact, while some of them knelt, others prostrated and
were begging the police to shoot at them. They were saying, ‘Please
shoot us; we want to die’.”
It was gathered that some OPC members later came out with weapons and engaged the hoodlums.
The proprietor of the school was reported to have called for reinforcement from SARS operatives, who stormed the community.
“The SARS operatives started shooting
into the air. They chased the teenagers and arrested seven of them. They
also seized their motorcycles and recovered some of the weapons they
brought,” another source said.
It was learnt that some Hausa leaders had visited the school and held a truce meeting with the management.
The Proprietor of the school, Chief Yomi Otubela, said it was only a minor disagreement among pupils of the school.
He said, “The issue was about some
teenagers who had issues with themselves on where to park their cars.
The police that were on duty at the school gate actually mediated. No
school property was damaged; nothing happened during our valedictory
service.”
But the Police Public Relations Officer, SP Dolapo Badmos, confirmed the attack, adding that seven suspects had been arrested.
She said, “Some hoodlums entered the school’s premises and destroyed some property. They allegedly made away with N1.5m.
“Our operatives from the Elere divison
were contacted and they swiftly moved in and arrested seven of the
suspects. The suspects have been handed over to the Area G headquarters
for further investigation.”
Neighbours of a woman, who died last
Friday in a hotel in Ikotun, Lagos State, have opened up on what
transpired shortly before her death.
They said the deceased, who was
identified only as Iya Ginika, had left home around 9pm on the day,
telling her husband that she wanted to visit a friend in the
neighbourhood.
The residents told our correspondent on
Tuesday that the woman, in her 50s, had claimed that she wanted to
collect something from the friend.
They added that they were shocked when news filtered in that she was found dead in Taola Hotel on Prince Adeyemi Street, Ikotun.
The deceased lived on K & S Street, Abaranje Road – a few kilometres from the hotel.
PUNCH Metro had reported on Monday that the woman and her lover had stayed in the hotel around 9.30pm on Friday and paid to spend an hour.
However, workers of the hotel became apprehensive when it was 12am the following day and the lovers did not check out.
One of the workers was said to have entered the room to discover that the woman was dead while her lover had fled.
The case was reported to the police at the Ikotun division.
A neighbour of the deceased told PUNCH Metro
on Tuesday that she had lied to her husband, identified simply as
Henry, that she wanted to visit a friend who lived on Prince Adeyemi
Street.
The neighbour, who did not want her name in print, said she was shocked when she learnt that the woman died in the hotel.
She said, “Around 9pm on Friday, she
told her husband that she wanted to visit a friend on the street where
the hotel is located. The husband and her children became confused when
she did not return.
“It was the following day when the news
of her death was broken that the husband realised he had lied to him.
She was about 50 years old.
“Her husband is a motorcyclist and he
tries his best to provide for the family. She used to run a lotto shop
but later stopped. She sold fish and soup ingredients before her death,”
he added.
When contacted, the deceased’s husband,
Henry, who spoke with our correspondent on the telephone, said she would
be buried later this month. He, however, declined comments when asked
where her late wife told him he was going on the day.
“She suffered from high blood pressure before her death. We will bury her later this month,” he said.
But the deceased’s daughter, who
collected the phone from her father, said the family did not want to
dwell on the incident in order to protect its image.
“We don’t want to be discussing this
matter. We have our future to protect and we don’t want the incident to
destroy the image of the family. Please, don’t call this number again,”
she added.
The Lagos State Police Command spokesperson, SP Dolapo Badmos, said the police were still on the trail of the fleeing lover.
The Civil Societies Coalition for the
Emancipation of Osun State has berated the National Judiclal Council for
recommending compulsory retirement for a judge in the Osun State High
Court, Justice Folahanmi Oloyede.
The Chairman of the group, Mr. Sulaiman
Adeniyi, said at a press conference in Osogbo on Wednesday that the
sacking of the judge could weaken the anti-corruption crusade of
President Muhammad Buhari, because many would not want to speak against
the evils being perpetrated by public office holders.
Oloyode, who last year accused Governor
Rauf Aregbesola of corruption and abdication of his primary
responsibilities including payment of workers’ salaries had petitioned
the House of Assembly and asked them to impeach the governor and his
deputy, Mrs. Titi Laoye Tomori, for this offences.
The NJC, after their investigation to
the petition written against the judge by a group known as Osun Civil
Societies Coalition, recommended that Oloyede should be retired
compulsorily.
But Adeniyi said the CSCEOS believed the
NJC colluded with some corrupt public officers to victimise Oloyode,
who they described as ” one of the very few courageous and incorruptible
judges left in the Nigerian judiciary.”
Adeniyi said, ” It is a calculated
miscarriage of justice aimed at forever discouraging and silencing any
person(s) who might want to speak out against the multitude of evil of
the so called elected leaders in our country.
“We appeal to all men of good conscience
to strongly reject and condemn this abuse of power by the so called
elected public office holders to subjugate the masses. We also appeal to
President Muhhamadu Buhari to urgently constitute an independent and
unbiased panel of inquiry into this matter that has the capacity to
rubbish his anti-corruption crusade.”
Adeniyi claimed that the OCSC led by Mr.
Waheed Lawal which petitioned the NJC and asked them to dismiss Oloyede
was an extension of Aregbesola.
He stated that his group countered the
petition written by Lawal led group and swore to affidavit to prove that
Lawal was not fit to bring such petition before the NJC because he and
most members of the group had criminal cases hanging on them.
Adeniyi stated that despite the evidence
presented before the NJC to show that the petitioners were not fit to
write the petition and their refusal to defend the allegations against
them, the NJC still recommended compulsory retirement for Oloyede.
The group accused the NJC of
circumventing it’s own guideline published in 2015, that the body would
not treat any petition without first investigating the integrity of the
petitioners.
Rotimi Adesanya, Child and Public Health Physician
roayad@yahoo.com, 08037202050
A mother recently complained to me that
her four-year-old baby usually breathes heavily at night. She was
worried because her son always opens his mouth and the loud noise was
becoming embarrassing.
After I examined the boy, I noticed that
his tonsils were inflamed, a condition called tonsillitis. The X-ray
done also showed an enlargement of the adenoids. The two conditions are
called adenotonsilitis and are responsible for the boy’s noisy
breathing.
Adenoids are the two infection-fighting
glands at the back of the nostrils and above the tonsils. Adenoid
enlargement refers to the increase in the size of the adenoids.
Noisy breathing is associated with
breathing through the mouth, bad breath, snoring, fast breathing and
cough. Adenoid enlargement is a major cause of noisy breathing in
children.
Other conditions that cause abnormal
breathing include asthma, poor dentition and abnormality in the mouth.
The adenoids, along with the tonsils, help prevent agents such as
bacteria and viruses from entering the body. When infection or
inflammation occurs, the adenoids become swollen preventing air from
flowing in and out of the nostrils freely.
To breathe, they have to inhale and exhale via mouth. The adenoids also shrink, as a child grows older.
Causes
The exact cause of enlarged adenoids is
not always clear. Chronic infection of the upper respiratory tract and
allergies may cause the adenoids to enlarge.
Symptoms
When adenoids cause obstruction, the
child now develops snoring (noisy breathing) because of the obstruction
of the passage of the nose at the back, will have bad breath with bad
odour and will not gain weight as expected since he uses a lot of energy
to breath. Most of the children will have recurrent catarrh, low to
high-grade fever, cough, noisy breathing from birth.
Diagnosis
Diagnosis of adenotonsilitis begins with
a history and physical exam. The tonsil can be viewed via direct light
source when the child opens his mouth. Adenoids cannot be seen by
looking in the mouth directly. The doctor can see them by using a
special mirror in the mouth or a flexible tube (called an endoscope)
placed through the nose. In young children, the easiest way to find an
enlarged adenoid is with an X-ray called postnasal X-ray.
Complications: It may result in Otitis
media (infection of middle ear), Chronis sinusitis, obstruction of the
airway, recurrent chest infection and sleep problems like sleep apnea.
It may also affect the facial appearance of the child, which in medical
terms is referred to as adenoid faces.
Prevention
Effective treatment of allergies may
prevent some cases of adenoidal hypertrophy. Many times, the condition
cannot be prevented. There is the need to prevent children from dusty
environment and things like smoking, frying things, sweeping, sharing of
items with mates in the school.”
Treatments: Use antibiotics,
anti-inflammatory (analgesics), oral corticosteroids and anti-allergy
drugs, among others. Surgical removal of the adenoids (adenoidectomy) is
sometimes necessary for those who do not respond to medicine.
According to MayoClinic.com, babies can
have as many as 10 upper respiratory infections–better known as the
common cold–before age 2. It’s also common for newborn babies to have
some nasal congestion in the first two months of life. All of that
sniffling and stuffiness can make your baby uncomfortable and interfere
with his sleep, making for a sad and grumpy little one.
Call the doctor
Newborns can become dehydrated quickly,
and colds can easily develop into croup or pneumonia. If your newborn is
having trouble breathing, has a runny nose, sounds “stuffy” or has a
rattling or raspy sound coming from her chest, call your pediatrician.
Chances are it’s just normal newborn congestion or simply a cold, but
with newborns, it’s best to err on the side of safety.
Clear congestion
A stuffy nose can make it hard for your
newborn to suck, so keeping his nasal passages clear is important. If
your pediatrician approves, use a mild nasal saline spray, available at
most drug and baby supply stores. Follow the directions on the bottle
and gently spray it into one nostril at a time. A drop of breast milk in
each nostril may help clear the congestion as well. Use a bulb syringe,
also available at drug stores and sometimes given out at the hospital
where you gave birth, to suck out the mucous. Squeeze the bulb of the
syringe, insert just the tip into baby’s nostril and slowly let the bulb
re-inflate, drawing the mucous out. Clean the syringe well with hot
water after each use, and make sure it’s fully dry before using it
again.
Use a humidifier in your newborn’s room
to help keep the air moist and ease congestion. Keep it away from the
crib or bassinet so the mist doesn’t spray directly on the baby, and
make sure the cord is kept well out of baby’s reach. Change the water
every day to ensure that mold doesn’t grow in the tub. Sitting with your
newborn in the bathroom with the hot water running and the door closed
may help loosen congestion as well. Let the steam fill the room and sit
with your baby for a few minutes, but be sure he doesn’t get too warm.
If his cheeks start to get red or he looks more uncomfortable, move to a
cooler room.
Letting your baby sleep partially
reclined in a car seat or swing can help his breathing if his chest is
congested. Be sure he’s buckled in and that the seat is on the floor and
can’t be knocked over.
In conclusion, parents should release
their children for necessary surgery that may be beneficial to such
children at adulthood. The failure to do this make the patients to snore
heavily later in life. It may also affect their speech.
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Ask the doctor
Dear Doctor: My eight-month-old child is not growing well; does he need de-worming?
Mrs. Akinsanya
Akure, Ondo State
No, you will need to exercise a little
patience. Kindly wait till the child is one. Children above one, can be
de-wormed every four to six months. You also need to take the child to a
doctor to know why your child has not been growing well. It is unlikely
due to worm infestations.
I noticed that my three-year-old
eating habits have changed since the holidays started and I am worried
he may lose weight, what can I do to make him eat more?
Feeding is one of a parent’s most
important jobs. We help our children grow healthy and strong. Here are
some ways to help your child become a healthy eater: Talk with your
child during meals and do not let him eat alone. This helps build strong
family relationships.
Also, establish regular meal and snack
times beginning when your child is nine months. Routines help children
to look forward to each meal. Do not force your baby or toddler to eat.
This often results in children refusing the food and eating less.
Patience is the key. You may have to offer your child a new food several
times before he will eat it. Avoid distractions from mobile phones,
toys, I-pads, televisions and other electronic devices during mealtime.
they can distract children from eating. It also takes time away from
talking as a family.
Trading activities on the Nigerian Stock
Exchange, for the third consecutive day, remained on a downward trend
with major blue chips equities recording price depreciation.
The All-Share Index on Wednesday lost 267.38 points or 0.94 per cent to close at 28,221.18 against 28,488.56 posted on Tuesday.
The market capitalisation, which opened at N9.784 trillion, shed N92 billion or 0.94 per cent to close at N9.692 trillion.
Dangote Cement topped the losers’ chart, dropping by N2.50 to close at N187.50 per share.
Total trailed with a loss of N2 to close at N180, while Stanbic lost 72k to close at N14.20 per share.
Zenith Bank shed 64k to close at N15.50 and Oando dipped 57k to close at N5.39 per share.
Conversely, Flour Mills recorded the highest price gain to lead the gainers’ table, growing by 20k to close at N21.70 per share.
Dangote Sugar followed with a gain of 15k to close at N6.80, Premier Breweries gained 14k to close at N2.95 per share.
Skye Bank increased by 6k to close at 78k and Nigerian Breweries also appreciated by 6k to close at N135.10 per share.
NEM Insurance drove the volume of shares with an exchange of 93.34 million shares worth N93.34 million.
It was trailed by United Bank for Africa
(UBA), accounting for 40.74 million shares valued at N185.51 million
and Skye Bank traded 35.95 million worth N28.02 million.
Transcorp sold 25.49 million shares valued at N36.46 million and FBN Holdings 18.03 million worth N63.06 million.
In all, a total of 309.72 million shares
valued at N2.08 billion were exchanged by investors in 3,934 deals
compared with the 242 million shares worth N1.56 billion transacted in
3,684 deals on Tuesday.
Workers of the Abuja Urban Mass
Transport Company on Wednesday protested the non-payment of their salary
arrears for five months, preventing the management from gaining access
to their offices.
The workers under the aegis of the
Amalgamated Union of Public Corporations, Civil Service Technical and
Recreational Services Employees – an affiliate of the Nigeria Labour
Congress – carried placards with various inscriptions.
They threatened to continue the protest
for two days and thereafter commence an indefinite strike if the
management of the company fails to yield to pay them immediately.
The Secretary of AUPCTRE, Sikiru Waheed,
told journalists that the company failed to honour agreements it had
with the workers on the payment of the arrears.
He said, “We are here protesting against
the unpaid salaries of workers in AUMTCO. The workers are being owed
five months arrears of salaries. We have had series of meetings with the
management and we have also agreed, written series of agreements which
they have not respected.
“At the initial stage, the Permanent
Secretary of the Ministry of the Federal Capital Territory (Tope
Ajakaiye) called us to a meeting and said we should go back home and
address our matter internally.
“We came here, wrote an agreement. In
that agreement, they agreed they will pay us one month out of the three
months within one week as of that time. Today, it is five months; the
one month has not been paid.
“At the same time, when paying salaries,
they deduct pension, they deduct money for cooperative. They deduct
money for union dues, but none of those monies are being remitted to the
appropriate authorities which are even against the laws of the Federal
Republic of Nigeria.”
Right groups have called for an end the scourge of child marriages,
after a 14-year-old pregnant girl was burnt to death in the latest case
of violence against women.
The family of the girl, Zahra, says she was tortured and set alight
by her husband’s family, according to reports citing local officials in
central Ghor province of Afghanistan, where the incident occurred.
Relatives of the teenager’s husband insist her death was by self-immolation.
Zahra, four months pregnant, was also said to be a victim of “baad”,
the forced marriage of a girl to a family to settle a dispute, a
practice prevalent in rural Afghanistan.
Her death last week has sparked shock waves in Afghanistan, with
rights groups demanding that the Afghan government bring an end to child
marriages.
“This is a truly heartbreaking situation in which Zahra faced
suffering beyond comprehension,” Save the Children said in a statement.
“Zahra’s is an extreme case of what can happen when a child is
forcibly married off, however we know her marriage was not unique – the
practice is all too common in many parts of the country.”
Child marriages are on the rise in Afghanistan, according to the Afghanistan Independent Human Rights Commission.
“In some regions because of insecurity and poverty the families marry
off their daughters at a very early age to get rid of them,” AIHRC
chief Sima Samar told reporters this week.
Afghan civil law sets the legal age of marriage at 16 for girls, yet
15 per cent of Afghan women under 50 years old were married before their
15th birthday and almost half were married before the age of 18,
according to Save the Children.
“This is such a fundamental breach of a child’s basic rights,” the charity said.
“Zahra and so many other children who are married off at a young age
are deprived of their right to education, safety and the ability to make
choices about their future.”
Zahra’s death comes after a young woman was stoned to death in Ghor last November after being accused of adultery.
And in March last year a woman named Farkhunda was savagely beaten
and set ablaze in central Kabul after being falsely accused of burning a
Koran.
The mob killing triggered angry nationwide protests and drew global attention to the endemic violence facing Afghan women.
President Muhammadu Buhari on Wednesday met behind closed doors with
the Speaker of the House of Representatives, Mr. Yakubu Dogara.
Dogara had accompanied his Nigerien counterpart, Ousseini Tinni, to meet Buhari.
The meeting which was described as a private one was held inside the President’s Office at the Presidential Villa, Abuja.
The meeting lasted less than an hour.
Neither Dogara nor Tinni spoke with State House correspondents at the end of the meeting.
“No, this was a private meeting,” Dogara simply said when reporters approached him for comments.
The Presidency had yet to release details of the meeting’s agenda as of the time of filing this report.
Over 900,000 children, representing 57 per cent children in Kaduna state are stunted Photo: CIFF
The United Nation Children’s Fund on
Wednesday said Kaduna State has over 1.6 million malnourished children,
the highest in Nigeria.
UNICEF’s Nutrition Specialist, Dr
Florence Oni, disclosed this while presenting nutrition intervention
score card in the last six months in the state.
Speaking during the two-day 2016
mid-year review meeting in Kaduna, she said the malnutrition was
responsible for the death of 50 per cent of children under five-year-old
in the state.
“Currently, over 900,000 children,
representing 57 per cent children in the state are stunted; meaning six
out of every 10 children less than five years in the state are stunted
due to malnutrition.
“Also, over 750,000 children are wasted,
which implies that 47 per cent of the children are suffering from
Severe Acute Malnutrition (SAM) and are 10 times more likely to die.”
She said that the state government was
already doing something about it, adding that much needed to be done if
the epidemic would be address.
“So far, the State Government has
released about N37 million to treat just about 3,060 children, and
UNICEF had equally supported the government with same amount to treat
additional 3,060 children.
“When you add up, it will give you just
6,120 children that are being treated. This is a very insignificant
figure when compared with the over 1.6 million malnourished children in
the state,’’ she said.
She added that UNICEF in collaboration
with the state government rolled out Community Management of Acute
Malnutrition (CMAM) in March as part of efforts to address the problem.
She said that 507 children from six to
59 months old with severe acute malnutrition were admitted into CMAM
between March and May.
She added that, so far, 138 have been treated and discharged, while two defaulted and five died.
She said that 60 health workers and 160
community volunteers had been trained and acquired necessary skills and
capacity for the management of SA.
The nutrition expert said that Community
Infant and Young Child Feeding (CIYF) were also rolled out in the state
to educate mothers on proper feeding of children.
“So far, 11,572 pregnant and lactating
mothers in Kajuru and Zaria Local Government Areas were trained between
January and May on appropriate infant and young child feeding.’’
The specialist said that the state
government had also released N80 million for two rounds of Maternal and
Child Health Week (MNCHW) and was conducted in February and June 2016.
She said that during the week, 2,585,092
children from six to 59 months old received vitamin A supplement, while
1,809,784 children from 12 to 59 months were dewormed.
“Also, 502,569 pregnant women received supply of iron folate for the prevention of micro nutrient deficiencies.
“With this figure, we have met the set
milestones of 75, 45 and 45 per cent, respectively, for the three key
nutrition intervention of vitamin A, de worming and iron folate this
year,’’ she added.
On his part, the Chief Field Officer,
UNICEF Kaduna, Mr Uptal Moitra, said timely release of fund for
nutrition interventions remains urgent and critical towards addressing
malnutrition in the state.
He emphasised the need for the state government to increase investment to effectively address the epidemic in the state.
The pioneer chairman of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, Mr. Nuhu Ribadu
The pioneer chairman of the Economic and
Financial Crimes Commission, Mr. Nuhu Ribadu, said on Tuesday that his
decision to join politics was a mad one given his roles in the fight
against corruption.
He also denied the allegation that
former heads of the EFCC, including the immediate past chairman, Mr.
Ibrahim Lamorde, diverted over N1trn of the loot recovered by the
anti-graft agency over the years.
Ribadu, who spoke in Abuja as the
special guest at the ‘National Stakeholders Workshop on the Recovery and
Management of Recovered Assets’ organised by the Presidential Advisory
Committee Against Corruption, said he continued to pay “dearly” for his
anti-corruption struggle as he joined politics.
The event was co-organised by the Prof.
Itse Sagay-led PACAC and The Commonwealth Secretariat, which was
represented by its Director, Rule of Law Division, Katalaina Sapolu.
He said given the honesty with which he
and his team which then comprised the incumbent Acting Chairman of EFCC,
Ibrahim Magu, and Lamorde, had handled the loot recovered by the
commission, it was unfair to be accused of diverting part of the assets.
He said, “Sadly, I read that they
wanted to take the issue to the National Assembly, my God! They are are
saying ‘come and account for the N1trn that you have taken. Why?”
He however said he considered the
allegation and his experience in politics as the price he had to pay for
fighting corrupt people.
He also restated his commitment to continue to fight against corruption if given the opportunity to do so.
He said, “Considering the care we took
in handling whatever was in our custody, I find it baffling and
disheartening when I hear people make insinuations about how we handled
recovered assets.
“It is the most unfair remark but
certainly not totally surprising as the fight against corruption is
essentially a thankless job, especially in our climes.
“That was why I was telling Prof. (Itse Sagay), that ‘don’t bother sir, people will abuse you, don’t say anything’.
“This is the job. We are hurting people,
we are taking things from those who took things desperately and we
denied them chance to make good use of it and enjoy it with their
family.
“I’m still paying dearly. In my own
madness, I decided to go into politics and I am still paying for it. But
I’m not bothered; I will continue fighting to the last of my breath.
If I’m given the opportunity I will do it again.”
He said contrary to the allegation
against him and others present and former heads of EFCC, it was some
senior lawyers that benefited from some of the cases undertaken by the
EFCC, such as the Harliburtton case.
He said, “Contrary to such insinuations
about self-enrichment, it was some people not us or even the government
that made money from some of those cases.
“A case in point is the Halliburton
investigation where after we had done the bulk of the work it was turned
into a milking cow for some senior lawyers who made millions of dollars
out of it.”
He said other foreign countries such as
the United States of America and the United Kingdom also recovered
billions of naira from the Halliburton case and other cases of high
level corruption, but the Nigerian government did not get anything
because it failed to take any step.
He said, “I ended up taking this case to US authorities. Unfortunately, there was nothing we could do here in Nigeria.
“It was the case of powerful companies
bribing and compromising the system and getting away with it, and we
were hopelessly helpless.
“Not just that one, we also had
Siemens, for example. They were EFCC cases. Almost all the worst cases
that took place in the world today with respect to corruption, they were
all cases that started with EFCC and they were our work.
“UK and US authorities benefitted and
took over over N3bn out of such cases but we did not benefit anything
because on our own side, nothing was done.”
He said the recovery of assets started
before the establishment of the EFCC and that he participated in the
initial recovery of part of the late former Head of State, Gen. Sani
Abacha’s loot.
He said at that time, in the absence of
legislation on asset recovery, through informal means over “N83bn was
recovered” and paid into the Federation Account.
But he said this was not recorded or captured in any literature.
“In the first few months we recovered billions ND thousands of houses,” he said.
The former EFCC boss also lauded his
achievement in office as he regretted that he was kicked out of office
by the late President Umar Yar’adua without allowing him to complete his
job.
Ribadu said, “In all the cases we
handled in EFCC , we got 95 per cent success. We never last any single
case at the Supreme Court or the Court of Appeal throughout the period I
was there.
“We got up to 300 convictions within the
short period of time and if not because we exited in 2007; if we had
remained in 2008 and 2009, all those cases would have been concluded.
But they kicked us out and reversed the things we had done.”
Sagay described Ribadu as the man who
started the anti-corruption struggle and asset recovery and regretted
that the pioneer chairman of the EFCC’s stay in office was cut short.
“He is the man who started it all. In
fact, if he had been allowed to continue his good work, it may not have
been necessary for us to be here today.”
Ribadu, who described the ongoing war of the President Muhammadu Buhari
Administration “is about the survival of our country”, urged Nigerians
to suport the fight.
He advocated that in addition to efforts
aimed at putting in place “laws as regards asset forfeiture “On a
larger scale, I would suggest that a high level serious consultations be
held between all the three arms of government to discuss steps and
measures of evolving a very comprehensive national strategy on the fight
against corruption that would enumerate the roles expected of all; the
executive, the legislature and the judiciary.”
He added, “We should have a strategy
that is a product of a consensus. Out of this strategy we can agree, if
need be, to have new laws or institutions with clear mandates and
responsibilities.
“The federating units should also be
invited to sign on to this strategy so that at the end whatever emerges
is what everyone consents to. This buy-ins will guarantee effective
implementation.”
OPEN HEAVENS DAILY DEVOTIONAL DATE: THURSDAY 21ST JULY 2016 THEME: VITAL INGREDIENTS OF PRAYER MEMORISE: And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against
any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your
trespasses. Mark 11:25
READ: Mark 11:22-26 22 And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God.
23 For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this
mountain, Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not
doubt in his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith
shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith. 24 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.
25 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any:
that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your
trespasses. 26 But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.
MESSAGE:
Our Lord Jesus Christ did not only give us an outline for prayer in
what is popularly called "The Lord's Prayer" (Luke 11:2-4), He also gave
us some vital ingredients of prayer. The first in our consideration is
faith. The Almighty God demands that we have faith in Him. A man that
prays without faith cannot get anything substantial from the spiritual
exercise of prayer. When we pray, we should be assured that God is
capable of doing whatever our desires are. Doubt is a grievous offence
before the Almighty God. The children of Israel that doubted the
capability of God were consumed by the fiery anger of the God who had
been erstwhile benevolent to them, however, as many as believed in His
Almightiness received great recompense for their faith. "But let him ask
in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the
sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he
shall receive anything of the Lord." James 1:6-7
Another vital
ingredient of the prayer that God will answer is forgiveness. This is a
two-edged sword. Blessed is he that is forgiven, sin is a hindrance to
prayer. Unless we are forgiven, our prayers cannot be answered. This is
why our Lord Jesus put an aspect of confession of sin in the prayer
outline (Luke 11:4). No matter how old we may be in the Lord, if we
discover any sin ranging from lying, outburst of unwarranted anger etc
in our lives while we are getting set to pray, we must confess that sin
first. The Bible says: "If we say that we have no sin, we deceive
ourselves, and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is
faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all
unrighteousness." 1 John 1:8-9
On the other hand, our Lord Jesus Christ said:
"And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that
your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses."
Mark 11:25 Many of us come to the throne of mercy without the milk
of mercy in our hearts. We come for mercy while we are not merciful; we
come for forgiveness and we are not forgiving. What an irony? In Mathew
18:32-35, our Lord told the parable of the wicked servant who jailed his
fellow worker that owed him a little after he himself had received
pardon for a greater debt. His unforgiving spirit made him to forfeit
the pardon for the debt he earlier received. Beloved, let us cultivate
the habit of forgiving one another, at least for the fact that our
Father in Heaven forgives every of our sins.
PRAYER POINT: Father, please increase my faith and put in me the spirit that freely forgives.
BIBLE IN ONE YEAR: Galatians 4-6 and Psalms 18:1-19
AUTHOR: PASTOR E. A. ADEBOYE
HYMN 9: MY FAITH HAS FOUND A RESTING PLACE
My faith has found a resting place, Not in device or creed; I trust the ever living One, His wounds for me shall plead.
Chorus: I need no other argument, I need no other plea, It is enough that Jesus died, And that He died for me.
Enough for me that Jesus saves, This ends my fear and doubt; A sinful soul I come to Him, He'll never cast me out.
Chorus:
My heart is leaning on the Word, The living Word of God, Salvation by my Savior's Name, Salvation through His blood.
Chorus:
My great Physician heals the sick, The lost He came to save; For me His precious blood He shed, For me His life He gave.
Chorus.
How to tell the difference between a man who's serious about you and one who's simply wasting your time The unserious guy tends to confuse you more as he's courting you, he's often attentive and says all the things you want to hear
It is never easy at the start of a relationship telling the difference between a guy who's serious about you and one who just want you on the list of women he's been to bed with. These guys are almost one and the same at first then you begin to see the difference much later - hopefully not too late. The unserious guy tends to confuse you more as he's courting you, he's often attentive and says all the things you want to hear. Relationship writer, Ravid Yosef of YourTango explains how you decipher what’s going on and really figure out if this guy's serious about you? It all begins with the way you listen. Below, I will give you some tips on what to listen for so that you know he’s not playing any games. By now, I hope you've taken my advice and asked him the single most important question you should ask on a first date. The premise of that conversation is, “What are you looking for?” If you listened intently to his answer, you went on a second date with this man because what you’re both looking for the same thing — something serious. You both share the key aspects of your relationship vision. Congrats on passing step number one! So you’re both looking for a serious relationship, but how do you know if he’s serious about you? A man who's serious about a relationship is talking about serious things. He’s looking to qualify you as much as you are looking to qualify him. A serious relationship type of guy talks to you about his vision for his life, his goals and his challenges. He’s willing to share himself with you and show vulnerability. But here’s the caveat and where your listening will really come into play: There's a difference between a man who's willing to share for the sake of rehashing and a man who is sharing for discovery. Therein lies the difference in the man who is serious about you, versus the man who is NOT. A man who isn't serious about you, or at least one who you shouldn't take seriously, is the one who shares for the sake of sharing. He’s treating you like he would a therapist. He's only interested in someone listening to him talk or in saying what you want to hear. Your conversation doesn’t go anywhere because he continues to rehash what has already been. A man who is serious about you and your future together is sharing new ideas and asking questions so that he can learn and discover with you. Your conversation is exploratory and positive and has room for growth. He’s asking about your goals and your vision because he doesn’t want to continue to date you if you’re not serious about the same things.
Why Some Ladies Will NEVER Get Married BY Pst Mike
NOTE: It is NOT funny. You are allowed to laugh though, but do not forget the lessons inherent.
Many African ladies will end up singles for life because of media exposure – It is so disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on a mobile phone from morning to night, only to raise it up to focus on television to watch another celebrity entertainment channel. Tell me, what else will dominate this lady’s mindset aside how to live a fake celebrity life being promoted on television channels? Many African ladies now dislike cooking and home chores just because they had been totally brainwashed by movies showcasing men playing the role of women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to modern media that promotes gender-equality in a destructive way that’s aimed at destroying the unique African family setting that made our previous African marriages everlasting and envious to the westerns. Now, with this attitude, how do you expect a African man to desire to marry when he knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than helper for himself? Excessive makeup turns most decent and serious-minded men off – If you have observed, you will discover that most men dislike excessive makeup, and more don’t even like it at all; reason they often times discourage their true loved ones to do away with it; because it speaks ill of a lady, even though so many men will applaud and complement you for looking like an Egyptian mummy. A slight makeup is okay; but if you are out for marriage, try always to look simple and natural; it will attract decent and serious-minded men, except you are still living your high school life and not thinking about marriage. Some Ladies WILL NEVER Get Married Stop Giving Your Number Out To Every John Dick & Harry! No man would want to propose marriage to a lady whose phone is always talking and laughing with unserious calls. You may not be a playgirl, but he would judge you as one, and will likely flee at the slightest chance or disagreement. You Don’t Bring Any Value Into The Life Of Men You Date or Are Dating – Because your best friend married without contributing anything to the man that finally married her, doesn’t mean it will work for you that way. Think, work towards equipping yourself so that you can be a value and also add value to his life to convince him that you are worth committing to. Adding value to his life isn’t by giving him money, or material gifts, nope….good counsels, being his best friend, helping him attain his goals in life, lending him moral, mental and spiritual support, and by not just being a liability that only bring requests and problems to be solved. Your Friends Run Your Life – How do you expect to find a husband when you still allow your clique of friends to be dictating which man you meet is worthy of your love and which is not? When will you wake up and face the fact that your best friends, even though they cherish you, may not want you to marry before them or to marry the best man? You Give Your Body Out During Dating – As a single lady who has not been taken to the altar, you need to reserve some things for your husband to be, especially your body, respect it and preserve it at all cost. In the past, men rushed to marry to get certain things or privileges they had been constantly denied while being single. Such privileges include and not limited to: constant s*x and companionship, good food and tidied home, etc. But today, a single man gets even the best and of course more of constant s*x, good food and excellent home-keeping more than his married counterparts, so tell me how the hell you want him to desire to marry you when you have given him virtually everything he desires from a wife while being his girlfriend? And the most painful part of it all is that he knows that you are prepared to cut down on s*x supply, cooking, home-keeping, etc once he marries you, so why would he not want you to remain his girlfriend for life? You Package Yourself Wrongly – in your attempt to look sexy, adorable and maybe appealing to guys, you have derailed from appealing to appalling. In fact you look more whorish than modest; more distractive than attractive, and more disgusting than adorable. Your dressing style determines who gets attracted to you most times. If you dress high school, only high school-thinking guys will be attracted to you, and if you dress excessively sexy and provocative, only randy men will come to you for urgent satisfaction of their immediate s*x urge, so don’t be fooled by media hyping of certain kinds of dressing. They are meant for certain set of ladies you wouldn’t like to be associated with, be careful. Remember, not all clothes that look sexy are good for a ‘seriously searching for a soul mate’ single lady. You Lack Manners, Character, Wisdom and Good Home Upbringing(or you decided not to take lessons) – definitely, your ‘hot girl’, ‘pretty girl’, ‘sexy girl’ looks will win you so many men; both the good, and the bad, but your inner beauty, your character and manner are the things that will determine whether any of those men would stay or run after accomplishing their evil missions. In order words, do away with nagging, being possessive, challenging with men in negative ways, the mentality of ‘what a man can do a woman can do better’, a lie devil has used to deceive and destroy so many ladies today, please do away with it.
Why ladies lose good men very early in relationships
Pst Mike is sharing his opinion on why ladies lose good men, I think we should all pay attention. Some ladies are the architect of their misfortune. You meet a nice guy. A really nice guy You both seem to hit it off He asks you out for a date. You oblige Everything is going smooth He invites you over You both got frisky The intimate moments were bliss Then you do it. You download every problem you have to him Your mother is sick Your younger brother needs to get an admission Your rent is expired You need to change your hair and the host of other ‘needs’ that manifests in a twinkle. That is so ugly. A Very ugly character (Hear what this girl has to say) I have a friend who does this. she meets a new guy and almost immediately, her financial needs finds it way of popping up. The relationships never last. She ends up complaining about how men are unserious. What does she expect really? You do not not put money upfront in a new relationship. It’s a red flag for anyone who wants to take you serious. Simply enjoy the moments and the joy of a new relationship. Bask in emotions that is budding at the moment. There are good men out there. You ask yourself why your relationships do not last and wonder if the ‘weenshes’ from your village is not on your case. Check within. An ugly character is an ugly one. Good men exist. Don’t buy into the stereotype of ‘good men being extinct’ Sometimes, all you have to do is Slow Down. **** In closing, I will like to add that this does not only affect romantic relationships, it affects normal friendships too. If you make a new friend, and the next thing you are doing is to evoke his/her pity because of your financial situation, you are likely to lose that friend soon. I hope we all learn from this. Cheers.
Hard Truths You Must Accept About Relationships By Pst Mike
Most people want to keep relationships that last forever but they lose it while they are trying all their best to keep it. Sometimes, you need to be conscious of the fact that there are some hard truths you must accept to make your relationship last long. Here are a few:
1. Your partner is probably not your soul mate I don’t believe in soul mates. The notion of two star-crossed lovers who are destined to be together forever is fanciful but statistically improbable. Unless you’re either incredibly lucky or a character in a Richard Curtis film, what you will probably end up with is someone who ticks most of your boxes and who ‘gets’ you most of the time. It’s not enough just to love someone – you have to work with them (and for them) as well.
2. The words ‘you’ve changed’ needn’t be negative Look, you’ve both changed, haven’t you? The constant presence of another person – whether the impact of that presence is positive, negative, or both – will make different people of both of you. This was always going to happen. Enjoy it. And if you don’t like the people you’ve become, you can fix that without having to say goodbye.
3. Love further down the line is very different We’ve lost count of the number of people we’ve heard saying ‘Oh, it’s just not the same – he feels more like a brother to me now’. Here’s the bottom line: to a certain extent, it does. You can keep the fun, sexy part of your relationship alive with a little mutual effort, but you’re going to find it difficult to keep up the level of intensity you once had. The mistake many couples make is thinking this is a bad thing. Sex works in peaks and troughs, and torrents and dry spells, but when it’s not there, you still have each other.
4. Don’t air your dirty laundry in public Sounds obvious, this one. I’m not saying you should give the impression that everything is permanently rosy. People I’ve known who do that often turn out to be emotionally abusive. But there is a time and a place for airing grievances, and it is not on Facebook. Subtle digs mentioning a joke you’ve shared together is one thing; posting inappropriate photos and detailing rows you’ve had – just before you continue them in the comments section – is not.
5. Always intend to say what you mean – and always expect your partner to do the opposite Yes, this sounds a little harsh. But it works both ways, for both genders. There will be times when you’re both keeping yourself under wraps. Learning to read between the lines is essential – you and you alone are going to recognise those little signs that manifest when your partner is saying one thing when s/he’s quite clearly feeling something else. And don’t make the mistake of thinking you’re perfect, because you won’t realise you’re doing it yourself until it’s too late. Poor communication doesn’t destroy relationships immediately. It roughens the edges…and when it becomes blunt, the inevitable happens.
6. Compromise, but be true to who you are There is a danger that some introvert-extrovert couples allow themselves to get partially swallowed up so that in a social situation the extrovert is the only one who talks – and then that bleeds into the other stuff you do. If that’s where you are, be sure that your partner has made room for you and allowed you to be your own person. A friend of mine told me a while back that sometimes the only reason a marriage appears rock solid is because one person had given up trying to chip the rock. Hmmm…do you agree with him?
7. Have the argument in your head When I’m on the verge of shouting at my other half, I’ll take myself off to a quiet area and reconstruct the argument I was about to have with her in the privacy of my own brain. These little internally realised tiffs invariably end with me making her cry, because none of us are at our most eloquent when we’re emotionally heightened. By the time I’ve worked out what was really bothering me, I’m no longer angry about it – and if things still need to be said, I can go back and have the conversation with her about it without things degenerating into a slanging match. Just for the record, both of you – if it happened months ago and you didn’t bring it up at the time, think very, very hard before you bring it up now. Let me take a coffee break here. Feel free to add hard truths that work for your relationship.
